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#ThroatChakra unlocked: I just uncovered a fear that’s being cast out for good, the fear of leading boldly.

I am a leader. I am who I am, and I will no longer shrink to make others comfortable. Been there, done that, twisting, adjusting, folding myself down to fit in boxes that were never mine to begin with.

But here’s the truth:
You’re not supposed to alter your essence, your light, your fire, your truth.

You can refine your habits. You can evolve your communication, expand your leadership, and upgrade your emotional intelligence…

But your soul? Your true self?

That was never meant to be compromised.
Not now. Not ever.

In the past, my personality and confidence were under fire.
It wasn’t just leadership growing pains; I later realized it was also triggering unhealed wounds from my childhood, and I didn’t even know it at the time.

I took some hits, came back strong, but stayed quiet.
I worked underground and just kept going.
Behind the scenes, I was reflecting, healing, apologizing, asking hard questions, making mistakes, unintentionally hurting others, taking ownership, being overly protective, and stumbling through what it truly takes to lead.

I always wanted to fix it. I always asked:
“What am I doing wrong?”  over and over until the question itself started giving me anxiety.

Leadership gave me anxiety.
I felt like I was walking on eggshells, just wanting to be liked, constantly overthinking.

My two self-sabotaging patterns, hyper-achiever and people pleaser, clashed hard.
And when those two collided… huneyyyy, it was a whole storm.
Too much for me.
Too much for others.
I had to step back.

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I was never the one chasing the spotlight or needing to be center stage.
But somewhere along the way, my light started to dim, not because I lacked brilliance, but because I made a few wrong adjustments trying to make others comfortable.

At first, I brushed it off, telling myself, “People’s opinions about my personality and confidence aren’t my business.”
But when the feedback becomes a constant hum… You start to question:
Do I need to change who I am?
Do I need to dress as they expect me to?
Tone down my energy?
Stop dancing so much because “it looks bad”?
Shrink myself just to avoid the stares, whispers, and judgments?

All I ever wanted was freedom. ✊

Eventually, the pressure became too heavy, too much weight to carry.
So I dropped it.
I sat in it.
I cried.

But I didn’t stay there.

Once I was done feeling bad for myself, I got the hell back up and started doing the real work.
The work of healing the leader within me.
And when I traced the pain back to its root, I found it…
Tied up in my upbringing.
#family

Who you are is who you are.
Who I am is who I am.

You are divinely designed to attract and serve your tribe.
Not everyone is meant to resonate with you, and that’s exactly how it should be.

In my journey, I’ve been told I’m too flamboyant, that my energy is too much, that I should tone it down or dress more “appropriately.”
But here’s what I’ve learned: those comments usually come from people who were never meant to walk with me anyway.
Your soul tribe will never ask you to dim your light.

Yes, some adjustments are sacred and necessary.
Things like refining communication, softening my leadership language, slowing down to listen more deeply, and learning to truly understand before reacting.
But there’s a BIG difference between evolving for alignment and shrinking to be accepted.

You are not here to fit into boxes that make others feel comfortable.
You are here to be you fully, boldly, unapologetically.

Love yourself. Stand in your confidence.
Because there is no one else on this planet like you.

And when you finally let go of trying to be everything for everyone, you create space to be everything you’re meant to be for the ones who are truly yours.

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Work through it. Stand up for yourself.

Understand that your triggers, especially the ones born from pain or trauma, are signals, not flaws.
When they show up, take a step back and do the work. Look at them honestly.
Do the energy work. Feel the emotion. Trace it back to the root.

Is it tied to your family? Childhood? A past life?
If it feels too heavy to look at alone, talk to someone.
There is nothing wrong with seeking help. That is a strength. ✊

Growing up, my parents didn’t realize they had a little leader on their hands.
I got in trouble for being “too bossy” all the time.
I was even grounded for it, over and over again.
But the truth is, our parents are human too. They don’t always get it right.
Still, I often wonder how different things could’ve been if someone had said:

“You’re not wrong, you’re just powerful. You're meant to lead.”

Instead of learning to embrace my voice, I was conditioned to fear it.
But I’m reclaiming that now.
And if this speaks to your story, you can too.

My delivery wasn’t always the best, especially with my siblings.
Could I have been more loving? Absolutely.
But let’s be real… I was a kid! 😜
And a hard-headed one at that. It’s a Harry thang, man.
I see my grandma, and I’m like, “Ohhh… so that’s where we get it!” 😂

Over time, I worked on becoming more coachable.
I threw myself into sports and music, and let my passion lead the way.
I became one of the top female track stars,
Sat first chair playing the violin,
Held it down as a point guard and small forward in basketball,
And even co-captained our cheer squad.

From 5th grade through high school,
my leadership skills were being molded through action.
But even with all those wins, there was a sadness I didn’t talk about...

My self-esteem was still shaky.
No matter how much I achieved,
I kept feeling like I wasn’t enough.

It took time to find the root of some of these issues, and it may take time for you, too.

As you continue your self-development journey, remember:
Triggers are not setbacks. They’re sacred signals.
They show you exactly where soul healing is needed.
They're lessons asking you to dig deeper, release the old, and rise higher.

• Uproot the patterns.
• Cast out the strongholds that no longer belong.
• Reclaim your wholeness.

Your journey won’t look like anyone else’s.
So stay focused on your path.
Forgive yourself. Forgive others.
And keep doing the energy work needed to fully heal—emotionally, spiritually, and energetically.

Did you know you can heal?
Yes, you.

That thing you carry?
It’s not who you are.
It’s a past pain, a wound, a trauma, not your identity.
It’s an emotion calling out for your attention, not something to suppress or shame.

Don’t ignore the fact that you are a mother flipping human being!
Give yourself grace.
Give yourself love.
You’re worthy of it all.

Love yourself more deeply, louder.
Because that’s where your power lives.

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